Here is research into argumentation and intellectual meekness. Here you should find reasons here to be assertive about what we believe without being obstinate. In other words, we need to be able to argue for what we believe within the context of relationships rather than arguing for the truth at the expense of them.

A Battle over Sacred Ground: the Knowledges of Evidence and Faith
Intellectual Meekness

Beyond Humility: Intellectual Meekness is a Way of Being (Part 1)
From Humility to Meekness: From Submission to Agency (Part 2)
Arguments Matter

Arguments Matter, Part 1: The Problem With Beliefs
Arguments Matter, Part 2: Being Correct Isn’t Enough
Arguments Matter, Part 3: Practical Tips

A Reason to be Reasonable

